I'm Triggered - Now What? (How To Know When You're Triggered - And Regain Your Balance)

I'm Triggered - Now What? (How To Know When You're Triggered - And Regain Your Balance)

I am a crown prince of tiggering. Or I would be, if they gave out crowns and royal designations for getting triggered and acting a fool.

But, alas, they do not. Still, I have a colourful history of getting triggered and enacting outdated, inappropriate and toxic patterns - not an incredibly unique trait, I know. But one of the greatest journeys of my life so far has been studying the process of emotional “triggering” - in my own life. Slowing it down while I am in it, learning the signature thoughts and feelings of various unconscious patterns that have traditionally subsumed me, and developing the awareness and emotional resilience to withstand this type of inner coup.

Inner Work Fundamentals: If You're Going To The Past, Make It Better!

Inner Work Fundamentals: If You're Going To The Past, Make It Better!

When I was about five years old, I was on a trip to the city with my family when I lost my wallet. 

Somehow I had saved up fifty dollars - a significant fortune for my five year old self - so the level of devastation I experienced when somehow I wasn’t able to find my life’s savings, contained within my precious wallet, was profound.

A few years ago this experience came to the surface as I was doing some inner work and excavation around feelings of loss, betrayal and scarcity - all of which were certainly cultivated by the episode of my lost wallet.

Polyamory, Conscious Monogamy & Knowing Your Heart's Needs

Polyamory, Conscious Monogamy & Knowing Your Heart's Needs

I have a lot to thank Polyamory for.

Let me be clear from the beginning though: I don't actually practice polyamory. However, my one brief foray into it's landscape was the catalyst for a period of deep soul searching that completely changed my life, in more areas than just intimate relationship.

Many years ago, I had been in a relationship with a woman for several months when they made it clear they were not comfortable with the relationship being exclusive. 

The list of things I felt when I found this out was long and intense: Confused, devastated, overwhelmed...